Husband: "I had a great phone interview today."
Me: "Oh yeah? Who with?"
Husband: "This awesome tech startup that needs a project manager/business developer. They really liked me, and I'd own 10% of the company if I stayed two years."
Me: "That's great, where is it?"
Husband: "Mountain View, CA...I don't think we could afford to take the pony."
Me: "Would you leave Tucker here because we had to move? Connor goes, that is non-negotiable. I will move anywhere in this country as long as Connor can go."
I hate to feel like I'm bringing his dreams down, but he knew when he met me when I was an Equine Studies major in college that this is just part of me. No surprises here. Connor's with me for life, no matter where we move. That said, I know I'll be comparing every barn I'm at for the rest of my life to this amazing barn, and I'm not at all motivated to move.
We also have a rule that if we move to an area that doesn't have an active eventing barn that I can afford, I'm buying a truck and trailer. That would be awesome, but I'd still rather stay here.
I have moved a lot, which I think is fun, but have also been at bad barns. You are so lucky to have your trainer and barn so I don't blame you. Being at a barn where you are not supported or where the facilities are sub par really sucks. Also, having had to sell Jack when we moved to SC was a huge disappointment even though it was the right decision. Connor seems to be your one in a million horse. Hold on to him!
ReplyDeleteThat had to have been hard. That's the horse that wore the bridle you gave me, isn't it? The bridle has moved on to Austen at Guinness on Tap, by the way, her horse was in a bridle so big, the throatlatch was under his cheek!
ReplyDeleteI am actually surprised he even thought it might be a possibility. Even my husband that, well you have probably read about how much he 'loves' my horses knows that where ever I go they go. We too are looking at moving in the near future(probably not for a couple years) and have to have these discussions too. Though we know the area we need to move to for his current job. Unlike you though I don't have any strong attachments to this area though I have lived here almost 10 years. Your current facility sounds so wonderful and those aren't easy to come by. Best of luck in this tough time. I have been there, losing the jobs, moving for a new job etc. and it was tough but we made it and it was all for a reason.
ReplyDeleteWell California is close to Oregon.... :)
ReplyDeleteDon't think that didn't cross my mind! ;-) In fact, the next sentence out of my mouth was "I wouldn't mind northern California or Oregon, I know some people that I wouldn't mind living closer to." And ponies!
ReplyDeleteYeah come on over!! We would love to have some more eventing partners :)
ReplyDeleteDoesn't look like my comment posted...but good luck to your husband! Hopefully you can find something that works for both of you. Ever considered the DC/Md/Va area ;) ? Lots of eventing here!
ReplyDeleteI'm with Carla. Come to our neck of the woods. Plus you could meet Comrade.
ReplyDeleteBut the chance to be near Cardi would be hard to pass up.
I hope he finds something that will work for all of you.
We've had conversations like that with very similar results. Wish him good luck on the job search!
ReplyDeleteChurchill Downs/Twin Spires has openings in Kentucky. You should have him look there. Great company, great location.
ReplyDeleteyikes I hope he was joking about leaving the horse behind!
ReplyDeleteGo with Kelly's suggestion and move to KY :)
ReplyDeleteThe first thing my husband did when the chance came up for him to transfer here was to start looking for places to board, ride, train. Then we looked for a house!
Mountain View is right around the corner from me :)
ReplyDeleteI'd just deadpan right back "well we'd save money since you'd be the only one moving....."
ReplyDeleteAlthough there are plenty of people who live in NYC and own horses but your hubby would have to make oodles of cash so keep encouraging him.
Kelly, that's the only thing I've allowed myself to do with each job he's applied to. Even moving to a different side of Columbus would require a possible move, since the barn is already so far.
ReplyDeleteKarley, I thought of that! We could not afford student loans, living and the pony, even with his salary going up. I don't know how you do it out there!
STH, totally. I keep telling him we can move anywhere, there's just a higher salary requirement in some areas...
Come here Jen! We are only 50 miles or so west of Chicago and I am at the best eventing barn ever! There are tons of companies in the Chicago suburbs and living out here in the country is unbelievable.
ReplyDeletehttp://versaillesequestrian.com/
Plus, Connor could live with his brother and they could have tons of fun together!
ReplyDeleteKY!!! Lexington though. Although in terms of eventing Louisville seems to only have eventing barns so it wouldn't be that awful ;) Hope the job hunt continues to go well.
ReplyDeleteThey do have an eventing barn in Portola Valley which is like 12 minutes from Mountain View.
ReplyDelete(I'm an enabler, you know)